Sunday, February 26, 2012

The wait is over...

... for everyone!

I find myself having to apologize again for such a delay in posting. However, we've had such an influx of news that it was hard to share pieces without sharing everything, but now is the time.

After the dreaded two-week wait was over (a few weeks ago) we anxiously made the trip to Tulsa for our first pregnancy test. We weren't necessarily going in blind, however, because we broke all the rules and did what the nurse told us not to and took a home pregnancy test...actually, we took 5. lol  3 of them came back positive and 2 negative, so we weren't exactly sure what to think.  We got to the clinic at 8:30 am for a simple blood draw - them we hit the road and headed home.  We were about 15 miles from our house when we got the call from Joni (our most favorite nurse at the Tulsa Fertility Clinic).  Her news was cautiously optimistic...we were pregnant! But our HCG level (HCG = human chorionic gonadotropin = the  hormone that a developing baby produces after it attaches to the wall of the uterus) was a bit lower than they would have liked to see (81). She didn't think there would be a problem, but told us to hang tight for the next test.  


One week later, I headed to Tulsa with my friend Janelle for the 2nd blood test.  We decided we needed to save Si's vacation time for other 'more involved' appointments since this was just another blood draw. Janelle was gracious enough to ride along with me. We arrived at 10:00 for the blood draw and then did a bit of shopping and lunch waiting for the phone to ring - right before our food arrived my phone rang - it was Joni again - and this time she was VERY excited. My HCG level had gone from 81 to 2081 in  just one week!  This growth in numbers was a very good sign - and, as Joni said, it means that it REALLY worked!  We are REALLY pregnant!  I'm sure everyone at The Cheesecake Factory wondered why I was squealing, crying and laughing at the same time, but I couldn't contain my excitement!


They scheduled our first ultrasound for 2 weeks after that.  This appointment was a biggie, because it will tell us if one or two of the Seger embryos decided to stick around.  Silas and I arrived at TFC around 8:30 the morning of our appointment and were super excited to see what was happening.  During our ultrasound it didn't take Dr. Blackwell long to tell us that we have one healthy baby.  We were able to clearly see the outline of the yolk sack and even the 'flutter' of the heartbeat! We left the office with mixed emotions; over-the-moon excited for our one healthy baby that is growing, but also a feeling of loss for our 2nd embryo.  Neither of us realized just how much we had been counting on both 'taking' or how much we loved both of them already.  It has been a roller coaster of emotions since that appointment but overwhelmingly we feel blessed and very excited for the little life that is growing right now!  We are working our way through our emotions and have decided that our blessings continue in that we have an angel baby watching over both us and our new baby. Not everyone has that...


We had another ultrasound this past Friday and baby Seger is growing well and had a nice, strong heartbeat (153 bpm).  Hearing our baby's heartbeat for the first time was absolutely the most amazing and precious sound in the world! I wish we could have recorded it so we could play it back over and over...


Dr. Blackwell  said she would like to see us just one more time (in two weeks) and then she will release us to a local OB/GYN here in NW Arkansas.  We were happy to find out that she has a relationship with a doctor here at my clinic and she recommended him! It should be a seamless transition and much easier when we don't have to travel 2 hours one-way for each appointment.


We are excited to continue this journey - one that now includes Baby Seger!  We already feel like a family of 3 as we wait for Baby's arrival early this fall!  Now that the news is out I will be better at updating our blog with appointment updates, baby development and all sorts of excitement!!


Thank you, again, for your prayers and friendship!  We are blessed in so many ways and can't wait to continue to share our journey as we take Baby Steps...


Love,
Si & Stac

Friday, January 20, 2012

TWW

Hello, friends!

Yesterday was a good day!  At 3:30 pm (on the dot) Seger embryo 1 and Seger embryo 2 were transferred into mama Seger's uterus!  It was the most amazing, emotional and surreal thing we have ever experienced! Dr. T (the embryologist) came into my OR at about 3:20 and matched the numbers on my wrist band with the numbers identifying our embryos and he disappeared to get them ready for transfer.

He came back, handed the transfer catheter to Dr. Blackwell and told her that they looked great.  Dr. T, Dr. Blackwell and Hannah (our radiology tech/nurse) then started and completed the 1 minute procedure at 3:30 pm.  The most amazing part was that I got to watch the entire process.  On the ultrasound screen, I got to watch as Dr. Blackwell inserted the catheter and gently directed our embryo's to their new home.  I saw them go in and I saw 2 little spots on the ultrasound machine right as she pointed them out and said "all done.  Looks perfect."

The hardest part was that Si wasn't allowed back into the OR with me...we weren't aware of that and it was a shock for both of us when they called me to the pre-op area and told him they would come get him when we were done and I was in recovery.  My heart fell into my stomach and I immediately started crying.  Si, in his typical supportive fashion, says "it'll be ok. I'll see you soon."  He is such an amazing husband and support for me...he is definitely the strong one.  I don't know how I would survive without him.

I think I was in recovery for about 30 seconds before he got to come back. That was one of my favorite moments of the day - to see his smile and hear his voice calmed all my nerves and I told him all about the procedure.  I had to lay in the recovery area for 30 minutes with my feet and hips elevated and then nurse Hannah came to give us the list of 'rules' for the next few days and we were free to go.

It's kind of simple - the 'rules' aren't crazy - no lifting for a few days, no strenuous work, no running, swimming, hot tubs, exercise, keep stress to a minimum - just lay low. The one thing they left off the list that should be number 1 is to PRAY! Because now it's all up to God and our babies. Yesterday they transformed from embryo's to babies as far as I'm concerned!

I wish I felt pregnant - I wish I could tell that something happened, that something has changed. But I can't. The one thing that has changed, tho is that I feel this overwhelming sense of responsibility now that they are here - with us.  I've found myself walking gingerly, sitting a bit gentler, moving a bit slower - trying to be very careful.  I know that's a bit extreme, but at this point, it is ALL I can do besides pray.

The title of this post is TWW - an acronym I've recently learned.  I've been visiting IVF/embryo transfer websites and blogs and TWW refers to Two Week Wait - the 2 week period between embryo transfer and pregnancy test. The TWW is going to feel like an eternity and will probably move like molasses in January in Minnesota! (Give it a minute...it'll come... Get it?! :) )

Please continue to pray - it'll be a long couple of weeks before we go for our first pregnancy test. Our patience will be tested - as will our nerves. But God is good and we are optimistic!

Thanks for all the phone calls, emails, text messages and prayers yesterday...we felt them...

Love,
Silas & Stacy

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

It's about time...

... about time for another blog post ... about time for an update ... about time for us to get going!

Tomorrow Si and I will be in Tulsa for the event we've been waiting, praying and preparing for - tomorrow Seger embryo 1 and Seger embryo 2 will be transferred into mama Seger's uterus! WOW!  We've been waiting for so long, there has been so many pills, patches and shots and the day is finally right around the corner.

I can't even begin to explain the emotions that are running through our minds and hearts right now. There is a whole heap of excitement, a bunch of anxiety, a titch of nervousness and a whole lot of optimism! So - if there was one word to sum that up, that's what it would mean!

At our ultra sound on January 9, Dr. Blackwell told us that everything looked 'perfect' (that was her word ... she used it 4 times!).  Hormone levels are great. She even showed us during the ultrasound where she will likely place the embryo's tomorrow...the spot best-suited for growing babies. :) We've done everything we can to facilitate success. Dr. Blackwell and her (amazing) team has done everything they can to facilitate success.  Now it is up to God. We are excitedly asking for God's guidance and grace and patience tomorrow as we take this step of this amazing journey we have been on. Dr. Blackwell is one of the best at what she does so we have full faith and confidence in her - but we will certainly be asking God to bless her hands and her heart before we begin tomorrow!

The rest of this lies with A & B - my prayers this week have been that they will choose me to be their mom. That they will choose to stay with us and live with us and trust us to be the best parents we can be. In some ways I already feel like a mom - ever since we adopted them in October I've felt like there were 2 little souls just waiting to introduce themselves to us. I've started a list of all the things I want to teach our kids, all the things I want to do with them. But mostly I just want to love them and to be their mom.

Please say some prayers tomorrow if you have time. Please pray for health and safety and grace and peace. It'll be a while before we know if these little ones chose to stay or go; so some prayers for patience would be good, too.

Thanks, again, for all of your love and support.  Here we go....it's about time!

Love & Hugs -
Stacy & Silas

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Pondering a Miracle Birth

Hello, dear friends...it's been a while since I last updated...things have continued to go smoothly for us. :)

I began the shot regimine about 2 weeks ago.  This first round of shots was Lupron...it's a pituitary glad suppressant and the purpose is to stop my ovaries from function - basically to stop normal ovulation. When they go in to transfer the embryos, they don't want any 'stray eggs' floatin' around...  The first shot was a bit scary - it's one I give to myself, in my stomach.  It's a tiny needle, the same one diabetics use for insulin, but it was still scary.  I shook so bad and had to do the 1-2-3 a few times before I just said "screw it" and did it. I barely felt it at all and there were no crazy side-effects.  Each day has been easier ... the hardest part is remembering to alternate sides because I forget which one I used the day before. LOL  I keep asking Si if he wants to practice this one before he has to start giving me daily intra-muscular shots in my behind and he politely passes...he did give me the shot ONE day and it was a breeze!  He's a natural! :)

I've noticed a few of the mild side-effects they've mentioned; fatigue, nausea and rollercoaster-type emotions. Like I said before, nothing too crazy, but noticable. All is worth it and I'm trying to take them in stride. My close friends and husband may say that my 'stride' needs some work, but I'm trying!

Tomorrow the dosage of the Lupron changes, I start taking a daily baby asprin and on Monday the doozy starts - estrogen patches! (Watch out Si...here comes the REAL rollercoaster!) Again, I'll try to take it all in stride and hope he and my friends don't get too crazy annoyed with me!

The last few weeks have really had me contemplating a miracle birth - the scripture readings through Advent contain both the Annunciation (the Angel Gabriel telling Mary she's going to become pregnant by the Holy Spirit and bear a Son) and the story of Elizabeth, Mary's cousin (who was said to be barren but conceived John the Baptist in her old age...like 80+).  Both of these stories have taken on new meaning for me this year. I have heard these stories a bagillion times throughout my life yet I am hearing them differently this year.  While reading the Gospel lesson last week, I read the story of Mary hearing from the Angel Gabriel and he said to her: and now, your relative Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son; and this is the sixth month for her who was said to be barren.  For nothing will be impossible for God. (Luke 1)

Those words have never had more impact on me than they did this year.  My eyes welled up with tears and a huge lump clogged my throat and I had to pause from reading the Gospel lesson. I knew that if I looked up at the people who I have come to care about so much, who have been and continue to be so supportive of Silas and I, I would fall apart, so I didn't. I continued to look down at the reading...until I realized my voice was gone....I looked up and there were so many kind, loving eyes; some offering encouragement, some curious, some wondering why the pause...but they gave me my voice back.  I  finished the reading and continued the service.

It made me think about why the Angel Gabriel told Mary about Elizabeth in the first place - shortly after Mary's conversation with the Angel, she took off for Elizabeth's place to see her. She went to support her and to receive support, to encourage and to receive encouragement, to love and to be loved.  That is what we are here for - to give and to receive. Elizabeth and Mary share the experience of a miracle conception and resulting births... I have come to be even more convinced now that any women blessed by becoming pregnant and giving birth experience a miracle conception and birth. God's fingerprints are all over each soul, each moment and each birth.

I guess you could say that these days I am praying for our own miracle conception and birth...I am praying that God is guiding this process and will be holding us carefully when it comes to transfer day in a few short weeks.

As we all celebrate the miracle birth of Jesus this weekend, please pause to consider the miracle that YOU are - the miracle conception that occured when you were created and the miracles that your children, nieces/nephews, neighbors and friends are...

God continues to bless us with good friends and an amazing family. I can't wait to see what is coming in the weeks ahead.

Merry Christmas to each of you...thank you for your prayers.  Please keep 'em comin'!

Love-
Stac & Si

Thursday, November 24, 2011

The first of many...

Sorry for the delay in updating. There isn't a whole lot to update, but as I was sitting here today enjoying Thanksgiving with my Kansas family I was feeling particularly thankful for all that has transpired in the last 2 months.

8 months ago Silas and I were just days away from our wedding - we were literally bursting with excitement as our family started arriving in town and last-minute details were being attended to. Today we have a similar level of excitement as we prepare for our embryo transfer in January - just approximately 50 days away.

Last week I had an appointment with Dr. Blackwell at Tulsa Fertility Clinic.  Si was not able to make it to this appointment - we need to save his vacation time for other, 'more critical' appointments.  My dear friend Pam was able to travel with me and was awesome in keeping me calm and steady.

While I was there she did the first of many ultrasounds and a trial transfer.  She spent some time mapping out and ensuring that my cervix and uterus were healthy and ready for the transfer.  After the exam the results were great! She told me that everything looks healthy and ready for the events that are to come!  Once again, I kind of floated out of the clinic!

It's hard to explain but it was almost surreal to pull out of the parking lot thinking about the Seger embryos that are living there. It was hard to just leave - I already feel so attached to them and almost felt bad leaving them there. Every night I pray that God will keep them safe and will prepare my body in all the ways it needs to be prepared.  I also pray that God will prepare Si and I for whatever is to come in the next 2 months....there is so much excitement and optimism that I have to remind myself that nothing is guaranteed.

We don't have to go back to the clinic until January now.  I started taking a few of the supplements and vitamins a few weeks ago and will start lupron shots & estrogen patches in 3 weeks.  More shots and other supplements will follow in January. (I should also pray that God will temper my emotions and bit so I don't completely drive Si nuts! lol)

Thank you all so much for your prayers, phone calls and notes.  Your love and support mean the world to us!   On Thanksgiving we are especially reminded of the blessings in our life; family, friends, vocation and this wonderful journey we are on.  God has blessed us in many ways and we count each of YOU among our blessings.

God's peace and blessings to each of you!

Stacy & Si

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Yesterday was a GOOD day.

Wow...yesterday was a whirlwind, a bit overwhelming, exciting and AMAZING!  On our way to see the judge we got to peek our heads in and see a real, shiny, BIG courtroom with a jury area, press seating and HUGE judges bench and everything.  It's the little things that get me excited these days...

Then we moved on to the judge in her private chambers. She was very kind and it was a simple process. A few questions, a couple of smiles and with one stamp from the her it was done; we officially adopted 2 embryos! WOW! It was the coolest feeling walking out of her chambers knowing that we have them now...officially ours; our responsibility to love and care for. WOW.   Then it was back to the clinic...

We met with our nurse and received all the details about what we can expect in the next couple of months leading up to the embryo transfer. So many details, so many prescriptions and so many 'rules'.  We met with the financial coordinator and got all those details wrapped up. Not a lot of complications there...pretty straight forward. We ran into our doctor, Dr. Blackwell, in the hall and thanked her a hundred times for helping us and getting us set on this path. Her response was a simple, kind, warm smile and a "my pleasure."

One of my favorite moments at the clinic came when Si and I were waiting for our names to be called and around the corner walked a young couple - she appeared to be 5-6 months pregnant; her hand on her baby belly, tears in her eyes and  smile on her face. Her husband had an ear-to-ear grin that said it all. I immediately flashed forward about 7 months in our own lives and felt my heart skip a beat and I grabbed Si's arm...our dreams are closer to coming true.  We floated out of the clinic yesterday. This was the best day the Seger's have had in a long time...

God is good. God is faithful. God has certainly led us to the right people at the right time. I am being reminded of God's greatness through this process. And I'm learning to listen to my own sermons - this past Sunday I talked about the power that there is in a group of people who all believe the line of scripture that says "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." I do believe that...I DO believe that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

We keep going, making plans and celebrating each day, each encounter, each appointment as a victory!

Yesterday was a GOOD day.

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Si & I are sitting in a hotel room in Tulsa...waiting for the hours to pass. Waiting for time to tick-tick-tick away.

We meet with the judge tomorrow morning at 8:45am. It is a private hearing, behind closed doors in the judge's private chambers. It shouldn't be anything crazy, long or complicated. From what we are told, she will just ask us if we understand all the legalities of what we are doing.

The legalities are simple - after the judge signs the adoption order tomorrow, we will be official. The genetic parents will have no rights or responsibilities to or for these embryos or any children that result.  We, on the other hand, accept ALL right and responsibility for them; now and for the future. This is something we joyfully and whole-heartedly accept. This is where we begin. This is the first step.

Once we are finished in court, we go to the clinic to meet with several people to talk about all the details. They'll explain to us what we can expect in the next couple of months and guide us in how to navigate what is to come.

So here we sit...waiting...willing time to move just a titch faster. It might be a sleepless night...but it's the good "I can't sleep before the first day of school" kind of sleeplessness. :)

Thanks, again, for your support, love, friendship and prayers. We are blessed a million times over - and we do not take that for granted.

Good night...